How to Ask for Support
I woke up this morning feeling a deep sense of gratitude in my soul. ✨
Yesterday, I hosted a retreat alongside my business partner and friend, Elizabeth Lewis. Our company together is called Retreat to Reclaim and we host retreats around the world that provide women with the tools to reclaim their lives, leaving feeling more free, whole and alive.
Yesterday's retreat was held at my home, and there's something about doing this magical work inside the comfort of my home that just felt SO supportive – for myself and for every woman in attendance. 💓
It really got me thinking about the ways that we actively create and willing accept support in our lives.
Maybe you're like me and have spent the majority of your life feeling the deep need to support yourself?
Even as a child I can remember wanting to do it all by myself. I didn't want anyone to worry about me. As I grew into an adult this translated into the need to continue juggling all the balls in the air on my own. Even when my arms felt tired, I couldn't put them down, couldn't ask anyone for help.
Over the past nearly four years, I have been consciously working on rewiring my need to do it by myself. 🧠
After moving through a really dark season of my life and taking the steps to come back home to myself (much like we share with our community inside Retreat to Reclaim) it became so crystal clear that this badge of honor I was wearing was no longer something I was proud of.
In fact, it was keeping me from growing. 😳
I needed deeply held support in order to step into the next version of myself, feel present in my marriage and my mothering, and grow my businesses.
I started simply exercising my throat chakra, using my voice to ask for the support I needed! 🗣️
I want to share the long list that is now my support system.
This feels SO important, as I know it's easy to get on social and look at empowering women and think, “they've got it all figured out!”
When the truth is, they may not have anything “figured out” BUT I can guarantee they have a team that helps them at home and in their business, that gifts them more space in their lives to work on their soul's calling. 💥
I wish more women showcased what the behind-the-scenes really looked like, so allow me to take the first step…
My current support system (in no particular order and to the best of my ability at this time – hey, pregnancy brain is real 😆):
My husband and my girls
My parents + my husband's parents (what a blessing to have 6 Grandparents to help watch my children while I build my dreams!)
Family and friends
My coach and mentors
My best friends and business partners at Retreat to Reclaim and Detroit Mobile Bar
My team of 3 at Meadows Realty Group and our support team of 2
My team of 4 at Lauryn Laszczak Coaching
The women in the masterminds that I am a part of
The women in my coaching programs that I have the honor of leading, who are equally inspiring and strengthening me
The hundreds of women inside our Retreat to Reclaim community who while leading them into wholeness have equally helped me heal and grow
My neighbors who I often reach out to when I literally need a cup of sugar (ok, more like an egg or two, that happens often)
Babysitters
House cleaners
Grocery delivery services
The list goes on! Day by day, year by year, my support system has grown… but I want to remind you that it has been a constant process of not only asking for help, but receiving it as well. Saying, “yes, thank you, I would be grateful for that" opposed to “oh, no, it's ok, I got it!” 🤲
Also, yes, investing money in many of these amazing humans. I find that for most of my clients this is the hardest part, spending the necessary money to be supported… but I have also know deeply that every dollar I spend multiplies and comes back to me in the way of money, time, energy and peace. I often feel like I would pay 10x the amount I do, because of how good it feels to be supported. 😅
It's deeply ingrained in us as women to not accept support. To feel that we have to “do it all” – but this patriarchal, old way of thinking was always meant to suppress us. To keep us in roles where we wouldn't shine as brightly, loudly, or fully.
If you've been to one of my retreats or inside one of my coaching containers, you know I could go on for hours about this, but today I'll leave it right here…
If you desire to transform your life, it starts with seeking out and fully receiving more support. ✨
I pray this message encourages you to do exactly that! It doesn't have to be a huge ask. Sometimes the littlest of things can create the biggest impact in our lives. Start today.
xx,
Lauryn
AND… please know that if you're not sure where to start I have a Masterclass Library full of support, you can access it here: